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Saying Yes and…

Saying Yes and…

There have been times in my life when I did not want to say yes to someone, but I didn’t want to say no even more. So, I said yes and found a way out later. Can you relate to this?

I do not enjoy being on either side of this dialogue.

When I say yes knowing I don’t mean yes, there are many values or needs I am not meeting. To name a few: Connection, Honesty, Predictability and Trust.

At the same ...

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Understanding & Expressing

Understanding & Expressing

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”    -Thich Nhat Hanh

Do you feel relaxed and open when someone is simply listening to you? You can offer others your presence and understanding too. Here are a few steps that might support you:

  • Presence: Begin by taking three breaths. You will find them refreshing and grounding.
  • Intention: Decide in the moment to listen.
  • Tune in: As if you are a radio, ...
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Standing on the Shoulders

Standing on the Shoulders


Standing on the Shoulders
by Joyce Johnson Rouse

I am standing on the shoulders of the ones who came before me
I am stronger for their courage, I am wiser for their words
I am lifted by their longing for a fair and brighter future
I am grateful for their vision, for their toiling on this Earth

We are standing on the shoulders of the ones who came before us
They are saints and they are humans, ...

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Seeing Clearly

Seeing Clearly

“The first component of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) entails the separation of observation from evaluation.  We need to clearly observe what we are seeing, hearing, or touching that is affecting our sense of well-being, without mixing in any evaluation.”  (Marshall Rosenberg)

The more I work with untangling my observations from my evaluations (making meaning of things) the less I find that my observations have anything to do with my sense of well-being.  I am finding what is actually affecting is my sense ...

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Freedom – What gives you a sense of Freedom?

Freedom – What gives you a sense of Freedom?

 

Happy 4th – Experience freedom today, and pass it on.

My very good friend (best friend – Cynthia), said something I think was profound today.

She said “You can leave this situation, and yes there would be a particular pain in the situation of leaving. Just the same, there would also be a particular pain in the staying.”

A sense of freedom washed over me.  I realized that it doesn’t matter.  Making one choice over the other choice isn’t going to make me ...

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Finding Freedom – A Do Over

June 2012

You can ask for a “Do Over” any time. Yes, it does not seem common, at least in our adult culture, to say, “Can I have a do over?” Sometimes I hear, “Can we start over?” However, if I am feeling some type of frustration already, I tend to hear the “we” as blame and I might begin unconsciously defending myself. Where as, if someone says “Can “I” have a ...

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Bouncing Back

May, 8, 2012      Resilience

It’s in the return.  – Sharon Saltzberg

I believe resilience is a universal human quality.  I want to have this quality or meet this need more in my life.  Bouncing back.  Returning to my better self, with as much eagerness as before “whatever happened that seemed to knock me down”.

I have read many articles that write about people that have the quality ...

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