Our Approach to Mediation

We approach each mediation situation with ideas of possibility and care for everyone involved. From experience we know that mediation can be a powerful process. People experiencing conflict can transform the struggle of conflict and disagreement in the process of mediation. As mediators, we offer our skills to support each individual to understand and hear what is really important and find collaborative solutions together.

Relationships, whether family, marriage, divorce, business or the like, can be extremely difficult, sometimes to the point of stimulating pain and conflict. At the very least, pain and conflict increase the complexity and difficulty of the situation. We believe that, at a minimum, every situation can result in compromise, and support and empower each individual to make informed decisions for themselves and their situation.

We  have extensive training in transformative and the facilitative model of mediation.  We hold a container of possibility for each participant and the entire situation. We believe that it is possible for each participant to resolve the situation feeling satisfied and even happy as they each move forward in their lives.

Mediation in General

My Approach to MediationMediation is a process that supports individuals to resolve conflict and make decisions and agreements about their situation together.  Generally people seek out mediation because they are having difficulty talking about and resolving the issues themselves or because they have been court ordered to do so.  A key foundation of mediation is that individuals know their situation best and will not only be able to make the best decisions for themselves, but will be more satisfied with the decisions they do make.

Often the alternative to mediation is going to court. This option is not private, and lacks choice and collaboration for the individuals in the dispute.

The Three Types of Mediation:

Transformative Mediation is or can be transformative. The three foundational outcomes of this model are:

  1. the opportunity for each participant to be heard by the other,
  2. participants finding new understandings of their situation, and
  3. that deep healing and transformation are not only possible, they are achievable.

Because of its nature of collaboration, this model’s structure is adaptive to the participants specific situation. This style of mediation provides the best opportunity for a “clean slate” for each individual as they move forward in their lives in a way that they truly desire.

Facilitative Mediation is as its name implies, is facilitative. The mediator is in charge of the process, not the outcome, but the process.  One of this model’s foundations is that the structure provide support for the individuals to reach an agreement. When emotions are charged and painful, this model provides safety in its structure as parties move forward to resolution.  This is the process used by most mediators.

Evaluative Mediation is modeled on settlement conferences held by judges. In this model, unlike transformative and facilitative,  the mediator is a decision-maker, either formally or informally. This model can be helpful when the parties cannot reach an agreement or if the situation is of a contractual matter.