To transform means to undergo total change. One way to measure transformation is to notice your current experience when you think of the original conflict. Is your energy around what was once conflict different? The point isn’t to talk about the conflict differently or to “let it go” every time you think about it. In fact, trying to think about something differently, or claiming to “let it go” isn’t transformation – it is translation. Translation is an “attempt” to experience something differently. However, the “attempt” is necessary every time you think about “it.”
When you transform conflict you are no longer bound by the past and stuck in the same negative feelings, you begin to live in the moment and build a new future.
The benefit of transforming conflict is to actually experience the situation or memory differently without the negative charge, and without continued trying or effort to have a different experience. Your new experience will include a new understanding, seeing new options and solutions, which then stimulates a positive forward looking experience. When you transform conflict you are no longer bound by the past and stuck in the same negative feelings, you begin to live in the moment and build a new future.