Nonviolent Communication

What is Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) was developed by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. as he searched for answers to two questions:

  1. What happens to disconnect us from our compassionate nature, leading us to behave violently and exploitatively?
  2. And conversely, what allows some people to stay connected to their compassionate nature under even the most trying circumstances?

NVC is a way of relating to ourselves and others. Most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand, diagnose and to think and communicate in terms of what is “right” and “wrong” with people. At best, the habitual ways we think and speak hinder communication, and create misunderstanding and frustration in others and ourselves. Without wanting to, even people with the best of intentions generate needless conflict.

Most of us are hungry for skills that can improve the quality of our relationships and to deepen our sense of personal empowerment. NVC provides an easy to grasp, effective method to get to the root of violence, pain and conflict peacefully. While NVC is much more than a communication model, the components provide a structure that leads to mutual giving and receiving from the heart.

Adapted from Marshall Rosenberg and the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC)